Stephanie, Dr. Sijo, the psychologist I am seeing suggested I write you a letter to help me with my healing from my loss. I really don’t know what else to tell you that you don’t already know. I believe you know how much I love you and what you’re passing would mean to me and totally change my life forever. Nevertheless, I thought I would let you know that I loved you since you were in my womb and throughout your short, but most memorable life on earth.
Although, your special needs to some would have been more than one could handle and others a burden for me was the best thing that ever happened to me. I embraced it and felt blessed to have been chosen by you. I would not exchange your thirty years with me for anything in the world. If, given the opportunity in another life time I would do it again.
From everything I learned from you I was transformed in becoming a stronger, more loving, compassionate, courageous, and passionate woman and the kind of Mother I was with you and continue to be with your sister Desiree. I could only hope that at the end of our journey I would become a mirror of you. I believe most of us feel we all have a purpose in our lives and each one of us is born with a physical suit to create a miracle for one other person. Since your passing, I have come to realize that I was yours. You chose me from everyone else in the world to be your mother. What could be a greater miracle than that. Your birth taught me unconditional love, and how to be a better mother to both my girls. Your Special needs taught me patience, compassion, hope, faith, humbleness, removable of obstacles, looking outside the box, positive thinking and hard work.
Your earlier years taught me not to sweat the small stuff, find a rainbow after every storm, enjoy simple things in life, find beauty in everything and everyone, life as a whole, passion for food and travel and to see all people through one color lenses.
You’re later years taught me about relationships, friendships, marriage. Taught me that the greatest of all things was Love. Taught me about infinite possibilities and dreams can come true. You inspired me!!
Your last five years taught me strength, courage, perseverance, frailty of life, hope, will to live, resilience, not to take anything for granted, priorities, nursing/medical skills, the importance of health and quality of life, career change, this moment, laughter, how to view life regardless of situation, limitless possibilities, transformation and most importantly, how you touched and changed people’s lives forever with your unconditional love and wisdom. I also know that these past five years although in tremendous pain you kept fighting for the love you had for me. For that I am eternally great full
Since your passing, I have been working on my spirituality, awareness of the afterlife, stronger sense of faith, frailty of life, identifying the many reasons for the will to keep living, to find peace and joy and most of all to accept God’s will and the hope to see you again.
What I did not learn from your was how to live without you. Perhaps it was not that you did not try to teach me but the fact that for me was never an option and I continue to refuse to accept your passing. Not being able to see that smile of yours, those eyes, holding you, touching and kissing you. Simply, denial of the inevitable destined or preordained to happen.
Your short life was not about what I could have given you but what you gave me. I could not be more grateful, nor more fortunate, most blessed for all you gave to me. Specially, your unconditional love.
I love you my Stephie with all that I am. I want you to know that not even death can separate us or erase what we had and shared. I am sorry for all the pain you went through but, I am sorry for all the pain you went through but, know, that I was hurting too and I believed in “a higher power” that you would be healed. Our battle was horrendous and the outcome unbearable.